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“Follow Me” (John 21:19b-24)

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Then he [Jesus] said to him [Peter], “Follow me!”

Peter turned and saw that the disciple whom Jesus loved [John] was following them. (This was the one who had leaned back against Jesus at the supper and had said, “Lord, who is going to betray you?”) When Peter saw him, he asked, “Lord, what about him?”

Jesus answered, “If I want him to remain alive until I return, what is that to you? You must follow me.” Because of this, the rumor spread among the believers that this disciple would not die. But Jesus did not say that he would not die; he only said, “If I want him to remain alive until I return, what is that to you?”

This is the disciple who testifies to these things and who wrote them down. We know that his testimony is true. (New International Version)

To actually follow Jesus around during his earthly ministry on this planet was amazing; yet singular, for just a few years of time. But to be called to follow Jesus in a post-resurrection world is, obviously, going to look different. It’s not the same.

It seems to me that the command from Jesus to “follow me” in such a world would take anyone a bit of time to wrap their head around. After all, Jesus had risen from death, and was about to ascend to heaven. How do you follow someone who is here, but not here?

Maybe Peter needed some space to try and make sense of it all by deflecting the command onto what’s going to happen with his fellow disciple John, who was hanging around following the two of them.

Jesus, undeterred by Peter trying to get Jesus on another subject, kept his focus on Peter. Again, Christ reiterated the command to Peter: “You follow me.”

It’s far too easy to look at others and wonder about their following, and to be overly concerned about somebody else’s Christian discipleship. If we are honest, oftentimes by doing that approach, we don’t have to deal with our own relationship with Jesus, and what he is saying specifically to me.

The beginning of Christ’s earthly ministry involved the command to “follow me.” And here, at the end of that phase of his ministry, he came back to the disciples, and to Peter, saying the very same thing: “Follow me.”

Even though so much had changed from the first time the disciples were called to follow Jesus, the basic nature of Christian discipleship had not really changed at all. In fact, even today, it still hasn’t much changed. The call still remains from the Lord Jesus to “follow me.”

“Whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves and take up their cross and follow me. For whoever wants to save their life will lose it, but whoever loses their life for me will find it.” (Matthew 16:24-25, NIV)

“I am the light of the world. Whoever follows me will never walk in darkness, but will have the light of life.” (John 8:12, NIV)

“Anyone who loves their life will lose it, while anyone who hates their life in this world will keep it for eternal life. Whoever serves me must follow me; and where I am, my servant also will be. My Father will honor the one who serves me.” (John 12:25-27, NIV)

Unlike Christ’s earthly ministry, in this post-resurrection world, the call of discipleship and apprenticeship to Jesus, goes out into all the world. It’s for everyone, and not just a select few persons to follow Jesus physically as their rabbi and teacher.

Yet, what is similar, concerning the call to follow Christ, is that we can still today get sidetracked by rumors about other followers. Believers can become enamored with what is happening, or going to happen, with particular Christians and about whether Jesus is going to return today or tomorrow.

But our singular focus, as Christians, as people who embrace the name of Christ, is to follow Jesus. “Follow me” is just as relevant now as it was two millennia ago.

What is important for each of us is to actually focus on our own part in following Jesus. The Good Shepherd is perfectly capable of properly sorting the sheep and the goats. That’s not our job.

We have quite enough on our spiritual plate in dealing with our own Christian discipleship, without sticking our nose in another’s Christian walk with Jesus. There is a fine line between holding another accountable, and just plain old being a no-good spiritual busybody.

So, when it comes to Christian discipleship and following Jesus, we are to mind our own business. Butt out of other people’s walk of faith, and concentrate on your own special calling from God.

We are not to compare our discipleship with others, namely because we each have our place and particular set of spiritual gifts to edify the community. And if we will put our focus on our own specific call to follow, then the Body of Christ is healthy and works together in unity, harmony, and love. (1 Corinthians 12:4-11)

If we concentrate on Jesus, we will be fine. If we choose, however, to be a spiritual busybody, or the self-appointed spiritual police, then we are going to have Judge Jesus to contend with in a way you probably won’t like.

So, what is you calling? How will you relate to Jesus? Will you take up the command from Jesus to “follow me?”

Merciful Lord, give me the courage to take up my cross and follow you, even if it means sacrificing my own comfort and desires. Help me to be obedient to your commandments, to live a life of love, and to serve others with humility.

Thank you, Lord, for your faithfulness and your endless grace. Help me to follow you with all my heart and to live out your teachings in my daily life. Amen.

Reframe the Situation (Exodus 4:1-9)

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But Moses protested again, “What if they won’t believe me or listen to me? What if they say, ‘The Lord never appeared to you’?”

Then the Lord asked him, “What is that in your hand?”

“A shepherd’s staff,” Moses replied.

“Throw it down on the ground,” the Lord told him. So Moses threw down the staff, and it turned into a snake! Moses jumped back.

Then the Lord told him, “Reach out and grab its tail.” So Moses reached out and grabbed it, and it turned back into a shepherd’s staff in his hand.

“Perform this sign,” the Lord told him. “Then they will believe that the Lord, the God of their ancestors—the God of Abraham, the God of Isaac, and the God of Jacob—really has appeared to you.”

Then the Lord said to Moses, “Now put your hand inside your cloak.” So Moses put his hand inside his cloak, and when he took it out again, his hand was white as snow with a severe skin disease. “Now put your hand back into your cloak,” the Lord said. So Moses put his hand back in, and when he took it out again, it was as healthy as the rest of his body.

The Lord said to Moses, “If they do not believe you and are not convinced by the first miraculous sign, they will be convinced by the second sign. And if they don’t believe you or listen to you even after these two signs, then take some water from the Nile River and pour it out on the dry ground. When you do, the water from the Nile will turn to blood on the ground.” (New Living Translation)

“When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.”

Victor Frankl

Moses needed a big-time reframing of his situation.

Reframing is a way to help see a situation from a different perspective.

For example, Moses seemed to say to himself, “I’m going to do horrible at communicating to the Israelites that God appeared to me. They’re never going to believe me that I saw God in a burning bush!”

Instead, Moses could reframe the circumstance by saying, “I saw God. I know God is going to deliver the Israelites from their slavery to the Egyptians. I’ve been thinking about this in the backside of the desert for the past 40 years. And God’s got my back to use me here. So, I’ve got this. I can do this!”

But, of course, Moses didn’t say that. He needed a reframing from God that came from some powerful illustrations of the Lord’s ability to change things.

The big reframe for Moses was this: If God can change a staff into a snake, and then turn it back again; and if God can change my hand to be white with leprosy, then turn it back to a healthy hand; then God can certainly change the minds and hearts of the Israelites to accept that I am the Lord’s chosen deliverer from Egyptian bondage.

Whenever we put the onus on our abilities, or lack thereof, in order to alter a situation, then we are likely to have little confidence and a negative outlook.

Yet, when we can do some reframing, and rightly put the emphasis on God’s power and God’s promise, then our faith is placed rightly and we can step forward with courage, knowing it’s ultimately about God, not me.

Moses contends with God about facing the Israelites and convincing them he’s the deliverer. He sees himself as a tongue-tied hick who is only good for moving sheep around. And yet, all these millennia later, we now remember Moses as the one who boldly and repeatedly spoke to Pharaoh and moved an entire nation from Egypt to the Promised Land.

The Lord helped reframe the situation for Moses. Instead of a backward shepherd who was no good at talking, Moses was a magnificently resilient person who was able to reinvent his life multiple times and thrive in each new situation.

Moses survived a murderous decree as a baby, grew up in the Egyptian court, moved to Midian in a completely different existence, and then became perhaps the greatest leader in Jewish history. All of that is the very definition of resilience.

I am willing to surmise that you also need some reframing of your circumstance or even your life. After all, you’ve made it this far in life, and you’re still here. That means you have some significant things going for you. No matter the situation you find yourself in, it’s likely that a good reframe may be needed.

In his book, From Death Camp to Existentialism, Victor Frankl writes of being in a Nazi concentration camp for three years. Everything was taken from him. Frankl’s wife, family, and most of his fellow inmates died. Yet, he survived. And, after the war, he became one of the great psychological healers of our time.

Victor Frankl kept reframing his horrible situation and using his mind for worthy purposes. He survived by using his suffering to help others find hope, to know that no other person or nation can steal his mind from him. Frankl could continually choose his attitude and mindset, irrespective of the circumstances.

“Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.”

Victor Frankl

There are always opportunities to experience life more fully, to become a more integrated and whole person, and to transform what seems daunting into a chance to improve one’s life or the lives of others.

Reframing is neither denial nor positive thinking. Rather, it is an invitation in learning to trust God, in the presence, promise, and power of the divine.

We all discover, like Moses, that life can turn out very differently than we might expect. And along the way, we also find that we reinvent ourselves more than once; and that we are transformed by the seasons of life which we all must pass through.

When we learn to trust the Lord, evermore with each and every adverse situation, we are less likely to be controlled or overcome by moods of pessimism, hopelessness, or resentment. Our prevailing attitude becomes optimistic, as our faith is exercised and proven in the difficult trials of life.

Through his several encounters with God – and then with the people and with Pharaoh – Moses found resources he didn’t know he had. By experiencing a reframe of his life, Moses became the sort of person and leader that we are still talking about 3,500 years later.

So, don’t close your heart and mind to the adversity in front of you. That only leads to bitterness and unhappiness. Instead, open yourself to God and trust the spiritual reality and resources you possess.

On the Lam(b) (Genesis 31:1-21)

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Jacob Flees Laban, illustration from Bible Pictures and What They Teach Us, by Charles Foster, 1897

Jacob heard that Laban’s sons were complaining, “Jacob is now a rich man, and he got everything he owns from our father.” Jacob also noticed that Laban was not as friendly as he had been before. One day the Lord said, “Jacob, go back to your relatives in the land of your ancestors, and I will be with you.”

Jacob sent for Rachel and Leah to meet him in the pasture where he kept his sheep, and he told them:

“Your father isn’t as friendly with me as he used to be, but the God my ancestors worshiped has been on my side. You know that I have worked hard for your father and that he keeps cheating me by changing my wages time after time. But God has protected me. When your father said the speckled sheep would be my wages, all of them were speckled. And when he said the spotted ones would be mine, all of them were spotted. That’s how God has taken sheep and goats from your father and given them to me.

Once, when the flocks were mating, I dreamed that all the rams were either spotted or speckled. Then God’s angel called me by name. I answered, and he said, “Notice that all the rams are either spotted or speckled. I know everything Laban is doing to you, and I am the God you worshiped at Bethel, when you poured olive oil on a rock and made a promise to me. Leave here at once and return to the land where you were born.”

Rachel and Leah said to Jacob:

There’s nothing left for us to inherit from our father. He treats us like foreigners and has even cheated us out of the bride price that should have been ours. So do whatever God tells you to do. Even the property God took from our father and gave to you really belongs to us and our children.

Then Jacob, his wives, and his children got on camels and left northern Syria for the home of his father Isaac in Canaan. Jacob took along all his flocks, herds, and other property.

Before Rachel left, she stole the household idols while Laban was out shearing his sheep.

Jacob tricked Laban the Aramean by not saying that he intended to leave. When Jacob crossed the Euphrates River and headed for the hill country of Gilead, he took with him everything he owned. (Contemporary English Version)

Moving and changing are a part of life. Change and movement are built into all creation, from the seasons of the year to our physical bodies over time. Some changes and moves we deem as good, and others, not so much. Yet, whether good or bad, any switch or shift in life can be difficult to cope with.

Whatever the circumstance, God stands behind everything, working out good and divine purposes. There are times and seasons in our lives where we can get lost in our own stories. Ultimately, however, our transitions from one place to another are really about our individual stories fitting into the larger story of God.

Whenever we are unable to see how our own story and the story of God fit together, it’s an opportunity to exercise faith and trust in God. Listening to God, and responding to God’s call to move and change, will at times be difficult, due to the uncertainty of our future.

Jacob Urges Leah and Rachel to Flee from Laban, by Pieter Symonsz Potter, 1638

In today’s Old Testament lesson, Jacob has served his father-in-law Laban for twenty years. Now, he hears the call of God to move – and that move is both good and fraught with anxiety. Jacob and his family are on the lam, literally moving their lambs and sheep and everything they own to avoid pursuit and confrontation.

The principal actor and center of the story is not Jacob, but God. The narrative is primarily about God, with Jacob as the supporting actor in the story.

God was watching over and protecting Jacob. The Lord was following through on a promise of land and descendants given to Jacob’s grandfather, Abraham – to make him into a great nation so that all people-groups on earth would be blessed. 

So then, the story of Jacob is merely one piece in the grand unfolding drama of God’s redemption. This drama would eventually and ultimately find its fulfillment in the person and work of Jesus.

Jacob had in-law issues. His relationship with his father-in-law had always been tenuous, and was morphing into trouble. Laban’s attitude had changed toward his son-in-law, probably due to Jacob’s increasing wealth, and Laban’s decreasing assets.

So, God showed up and told Jacob to return to the land of his fathers. Along with the call to make a change came a promise of God’s continued presence with Jacob. The grace given to Abraham when calling him out of Ur was renewed with more grace when calling Jacob back to the land of his father and grandfather.  It is in God’s nature to be gracious and to heap grace upon grace.

Jacob heeded call of the Lord and began laying plans to move back to Canaan. But how to tell his family about this? What are his wives going to say? After all, he’s talking about moving away with teenagers still in the tent.

With some anxiety, Jacob called his wives, Rachel and Leah, out to the fields to talk. Jacob laid out the story of himself and Laban, which he framed more as a contrasting story between God and Laban:

  • Laban’s attitude changed, whereas God’s attitude does not change. God is not fickle.
  • Laban was unreliable, reneging on promises, but God is reliable and trustworthy, keeping divine promises.
  • Laban kept changing his mind, yet God stays the same, yesterday, today, and forever.
  • Laban saw only self-interest; however God sees everyone and shows solidarity with the oppressed.

This same God is concerned for us and will not renege on promises. God is providentially working out a good  agenda and concern for this earth, and we can bank on it.

The response from Jacob and Rachel to Laban was some tricky thievery. Jacob stealthily took his family and ran away from the situation. Rachel straight up stole Laban’s household gods.

(Note: Old Testament narratives do not usually tell us whether something is bad or good but instead allows the story to unfold and speak for itself so that we can see the ethics working out). 

Jacob and Rachel had a less than stellar response to God’s grace. We do not know exactly what the household gods are, or why Rachel stole them. What we do know is that there was a bit of pagan practice mixed in with worship of the one, true God.

Our circumstances will forever be changing, and God may ask us to move and go do something somewhere else. Yet, no matter the situation, and how different our surroundings may become, God does not change, and is here with us; and, at the same time, is continually moving to accomplish good purposes.

Loving God, you have made the whole of human life in your image; each one of us shaped in love. Your goodness is ever-present within us all. Yet, there is so much evil and pain in our world; it comes at us from every direction.

Teach us how to rediscover your love within us and to use that love as a force for good. Help us to turn our hearts toward the world in hope, praying for each other and regarding each other as a treasure, so that we might be the light which darkness can never overcome, through Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen.

Never a Dull Moment (Acts 28:1-10)

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Miracle of St. Paul on the Island of Malta, by David Teniers, c.1620

Once safely on shore, we found out that the island was called Malta. The islanders showed us unusual kindness. They built a fire and welcomed us all because it was raining and cold. Paul gathered a pile of brushwood and, as he put it on the fire, a viper, driven out by the heat, fastened itself on his hand. When the islanders saw the snake hanging from his hand, they said to each other, “This man must be a murderer; for though he escaped from the sea, the goddess Justice has not allowed him to live.” But Paul shook the snake off into the fire and suffered no ill effects. The people expected him to swell up or suddenly fall dead; but after waiting a long time and seeing nothing unusual happen to him, they changed their minds and said he was a god.

There was an estate nearby that belonged to Publius, the chief official of the island. He welcomed us to his home and showed us generous hospitality for three days. His father was sick in bed, suffering from fever and dysentery. Paul went in to see him and, after prayer, placed his hands on him and healed him. When this had happened, the rest of the sick on the island came and were cured. They honored us in many ways; and when we were ready to sail, they furnished us with the supplies we needed. (New International Version)

There never seemed to be a dull moment in the life of the Apostle Paul. Throughout his life, he experienced all sorts of extreme circumstances, having survived as if he had the nine lives of a cat.

Once, when in the town of Lystra, Paul had such an impact on the people through his gift of healing, that the crowd believed he must be one of the gods; and they tried to worship him. But when Paul resisted, and a rival group from another town came along and turned the crowd, Paul was stoned and left for dead by the very people who tried to venerate him. (Acts 14:8-20)

So, it’s almost as if today’s New Testament lesson was just another day at the office for the Apostle Paul. After a suspenseful sea voyage, and then the wreck of a Roman prison ship, the drama of Paul’s life just kept going.

One minute, the people on the island in which Paul was shipwrecked were convinced that he’s a murderer, and the next minute they’re ready to assign him as a god. Nobody I’ve ever known can elicit such opposite reactions in such a short period of time – more than once. But that’s our Apostle Paul for you.

Circumstances are circumstances. But the way in which we interpret them is another thing. Take, for instance, the word “change.” For some, change is a wonderful word which brings thoughts of healing and hope. For others, change is a dirty word to be resisted, conjuring up feelings of fear and anxiety.

For one group, never-a-dull-moment is exciting and adventurous. For another group, never-a-dull-moment is nerve wracking and to be avoided at all costs.

Opposite reactions of a group of people comes from the different perspectives of change they see. It isn’t helpful to talk about who is right and who is wrong; the real trick is in how we choose to look at a thing.

I had only one grandparent when I was growing up. My Grandma was seventy-nine years old when I was born, and she lived to be ninety-seven. Even though I always knew her as an old lady, she had a lot of spunk in all ninety-five pounds of her. 

She had an old wooden cutting board in her kitchen. I’m not sure how old it was, but it was likely purchased from Methuselah’s Kitchen Outlet. It was cracked and falling apart. The board had deep furrows in it from the thousands of cuts made on it. Grandma liked her cutting board.

For Mother’s Day one year, my Dad bought her a nice brand new cutting board. And what did my Grandma do?  She put the new board in the back of her cupboard and continued using her nasty old cutting board. 

Whenever my Mom or sisters were in her house and helped her in the kitchen, they were not about to touch that old board; the thing was a bacteria trap. But Grandma didn’t care about bacteria or that it was falling apart. 

My Dad asked her why she did not use her new cutting board. She simply answered, “Oh, it’s much too nice to use.” But we all knew that was Grandma’s way of saying that she liked her nasty old cutting board, didn’t think it was all that bad, and wasn’t getting rid of it.

It seems we all have a bit of Grandma in us, bless her stubborn old heart. We like the way they do things, and really don’t see what another person sees. We don’t see that no one else has an emotional attachment to our cutting board. Sometimes we don’t realize how overwhelming and even intimidating our ways can be for someone else. 

Just imagine being in a new place with people you don’t know. Are you nervous? Does it help to have someone you know bring you and introduce you to people? Is it beneficial to have someone let you know what is happening and what is going on? 

Many years ago, I remember walking into a beautiful new church building, sitting down, and seeing a huge old pulpit that was literally falling apart. Since I’ve been around a lot of churches, I quickly discerned it was likely the old pulpit from the old church building. And, I discovered, it was. But, honestly, I had zero emotional attachment to that pulpit, and it was a distraction because it just looked like a big old ratty collar on a new puppy.

The point is this: Our view of change – whether to do it, or not, to embrace or resist – must be motivated by a solid set of values and a worthy purpose.

Paul put up with a lot, experienced a lot, and never had a dull moment. And he did it without bellyaching. That’s because he was continually focused on his ultimate purpose and values.

Our purpose, like Paul’s, is the Great Commission, to make disciples. (Matthew 28:18-20)

Our values, likewise, are the Great Commandment, to love God and neighbor. (Matthew 22:36-40)

Since our purpose is disciple-making, then we are always to make decisions based upon that standard. Since our values are loving others, then we always know how to go about our purpose.

If any faith community is helping people grow spiritually, then there is no need to change. But if a Christian community has not seen a person come to faith in Christ in the last year, that’s a significant reason to change. If a church has not seen anyone come to Christ in the last five years, then that church is eating meat prepared on a cutting board full of bacteria, and it’s making everyone sick.

Have we taken the old cutting board for granted, and just expect other people to use it if they are in our kitchen? Or do we have a vision, a motivation, and a driving desire to see all sorts of people find new life in Jesus Christ? 

If you don’t like empty seats, or the way things are, then the biblical solution is to change – specifically to change practices, speech, and daily behavior to reach others with the good news of grace. Change, or the lack thereof, for any other reason, is a bad reason to change.

Just so you know, after about a year of sitting in my Grandma’s cupboard, my Dad took out the new cutting board, put it on the kitchen counter and threw away the old board. 

It was about time. Never a dull moment with Grandma around.

Gracious God, we thank you that in love and mercy, you reached out to us. When we were dead in our sins, you sent Jesus to die in our place. Thank you that he humbled himself, even to death on a cross. And thank you that you have a heart that seeks the lost. 

Merciful Lord, please give us hearts that care for people in darkness. Teach us to care for them as you do. Thank you for including us in the mission of reaching other people for your name. Grow us to care for humanity, for the people who haven’t yet come to know and trust in you. Amen.