Misunderstanding Jesus (Mark 3:20-35)

By Jorge Cocco Santángelo

Then he went home, and the crowd came together again, so that they could not even eat. When his family heard it, they went out to restrain him, for people were saying, “He has gone out of his mind.” And the scribes who came down from Jerusalem said, “He has Beelzebul, and by the ruler of the demons he casts out demons.” 

And he called them to him and spoke to them in parables, “How can Satan cast out Satan? If a kingdom is divided against itself, that kingdom cannot stand. And if a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand. And if Satan has risen up against himself and is divided, he cannot stand, but his end has come. But no one can enter a strong man’s house and plunder his property without first tying up the strong man; then indeed the house can be plundered.

“Truly I tell you, people will be forgiven for their sins and whatever blasphemies they utter, but whoever blasphemes against the Holy Spirit can never have forgiveness but is guilty of an eternal sin”—for they had said, “He has an unclean spirit.”

Then his mother and his brothers came, and standing outside they sent to him and called him. A crowd was sitting around him, and they said to him, “Your mother and your brothers are outside asking for you.” And he replied, “Who are my mother and my brothers?” And looking at those who sat around him, he said, “Here are my mother and my brothers! Whoever does the will of God is my brother and sister and mother.” (New Revised Standard Version)

Who exactly is Jesus? That’s a question which has been bantered around by people for the past two millennia. I suppose that is to be expected, since people contemporary to Christ misunderstood him, including his own family.

There were a couple of related charges against Jesus by the religious authorities of his day: he has a demon; and by the prince of demons he casts out demons. There was also a charge against Jesus from members of his family: he is out of his mind. All the accusations and misinterpretations were in response to the crowds Jesus was attracting.

Sometimes one’s own relatives will think one is crazy, just for doing God’s will. Yet, the good news is that the misunderstood and the misinterpreted folks can find a family within Christian community. Jesus stated that his family are not those who are related by blood, but those who share his purpose of doing the will of God.

Jesus teaching, by James Tissot (1836-1902)

When it came to the religious leaders accusations, they were essentially saying that Jesus was using dark magic and not God’s power. They thought of Jesus as having gained control of certain spirits to do his bidding, as if he were casting spells on people and making them do what he wanted.

Yet, it is illogical, as Christ pointed out, that Satan would cast out his own demons, thus undermining his own sinister work. It’s much more logical to discern Christ’s work as the power of God and the work of the Holy Spirit. To miss this completely, and accuse otherwise, is to commit an unpardonable sin.

The controversy and charges in this story are about who is truly in and who is really out. Because, in reality, the insiders are out and the outsiders are in. And it isn’t so clear cut as everyone seems to think.

Jesus was drawing in the crowd of people, while family members were becoming outsiders. Those on the inside are given insight and understanding about God’s kingdom, whereas those on the outside are scratching their heads, not knowing what Jesus is doing or talking about.

Since the family was mystified by their own relative, they misinterpreted Jesus as being off his rocker. And since the religious leaders were clueless to the parables and actions of Jesus, they misunderstood the source of his power as demonic.

To mistake the work and power of the Holy Spirit as satanic is to be guilty of an unforgivable sin, simply because the ones mistaking, misunderstanding, and misinterpreting never see a need for repentance and forgiveness. They believe they’re okay, and that Jesus is not.

You cannot be forgiven if you always think you’re right.

The bottom line for both the family and the religious leaders is that Jesus didn’t meet their expectations and act as they all think he should; so they make completely misguided conclusions about him.

But, in truth, all they’re actually doing is projecting their own stuff onto Jesus. The family is out of their mind for not recognizing who is actually in front of their face. And the religious authorities blasphemed God by saying hard things about the Lord of life, of whom they were observing.

If that’s how others are going to treat Jesus, then they’re going to be on the outside of God’s kingdom. It’s their own fault, because of their own chosen lack of awareness, and their refusal to take a good hard look at who Jesus is.

For myself, I want to investigate Jesus so closely that I’m like the crowd pressing in to see him and touch the hem of his garment – believing that my desperate desire can be fully met in him. And I want the continued assurance that I am claimed by Christ as his brother.

I am grateful that I no longer have to be an outsider looking in; but instead have become a keeper of kingdom truth because I am drawn into the mystery of God’s love in Jesus Christ through the enablement of the Holy Spirit. To which I say with flavor, “amen” and “amen.”

2 Samuel 10:1-5 – Misunderstood

Sometime later, King Nahash of Ammon died, and his son Hanun became king. David said, “Nahash was kind to me, and I will be kind to his son.” So, he sent some officials to the country of Ammon to tell Hanun how sorry he was that his father had died.

But Hanun’s officials told him, “Do you really believe David is honoring your father by sending these people to comfort you? He probably sent them to spy on our city, so he can destroy it.” Hanun arrested David’s officials and had their beards shaved off on one side of their faces. He had their robes cut off just below the waist, and then he sent them away. They were terribly ashamed.

When David found out what had happened to his officials, he sent a message and told them, “Stay in Jericho until your beards grow back. Then you can come home.” (Contemporary English Version)

Showing mercy, grace, and good faith doesn’t always have a happy ending.

Sometimes people get burned for their genuine gracious overtures. Not only do some folks not return or reciprocate with grace. There are times when someone refuses it and even responds with criticism and judgment.

King David was at the pinnacle of his rule. All Israel and Judah were under his gracious authority. David acted as a godly sovereign when he sought to use his power to show kindness and grace to those in his kingdom, even to those who were related to his former enemy, Saul. (2 Samuel 9:1-12)

Yet when David kept up his gracious ways and sent a delegation to the Ammonites in order to bring compassion to a grieving nation, they not only spurned the kindness but attributed evil intent to it.

Why in the world would they do such a thing? Why did Hanun, the new ruler of Ammon, reject David’s kindness? Because he severely misinterpreted David’s motives, and completely misjudged David’s intentions.

It is important to make wise assessments of others, and not quick judgments about people or their situations.

Being misunderstood is downright difficult to swallow. Yet we can avoid sinful reactions and respond with grace, even if grace isn’t being shown to us:

  • We can be gracious by not always needing to have the last word. Any fool can get easily get sucked into an argument. Know when to stop talking.

Too much talk leads to sin. Be sensible and keep your mouth shut. (Proverbs 10:19, NLT)

Even fools may be thought wise and intelligent if they stay quiet and keep their mouths shut. (Proverbs 17:28, GNT)

  • We can be gracious through cultivating a humble spirit. Pride assumes that another can be silenced with the power of words. What’s more, wounded pride typically manifests itself by gossiping to others about our hurt.

Destructive people produce conflict; gossips alienate close friends. (Proverbs 16:28, CEB)

Pride leads to destruction; humility leads to honor. (Proverbs 18:12, CEV)

God opposes arrogant people, but he is kind to humble people. (James 4:6, GW)

  • We can be gracious by developing our capacity for civility and empathy. Often when someone spews their off-base judgments and criticisms upon us, they have a world of their own past personal hurt behind the angry diatribe. We can choose to be gently curious about this, discovering why there is such a visceral reaction to our kindness.

“I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, that you may be children of your Father in heaven. He causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous.” (Matthew 5:44-45, NIV)

Show respect for all people. Love your brothers and sisters in God’s family. Respect God and honor the king. (1 Peter 2:17, ERV)

  • We can be gracious through tapping into an inner storehouse of wisdom. Knowledge puffs up. Love builds up. Wisdom is insight into reality. For the believer, it is the ability to take God’s Word and lovingly apply it to the lived experience we are enduring.

Hold on to wisdom, and it will take care of you. Love it, and it will keep you safe. Wisdom is the most important thing; so, get wisdom. If it costs everything you have, get understanding. (Proverbs 4:6-7, NCV)

It is true, of course, that “all of us have knowledge,” as they say. Such knowledge, however, puffs a person up with pride; but love builds up. (1 Corinthians, 8:1, GNT)

One of life’s hard lessons is that bestowing grace and mercy to others does not necessarily mean they will receive it and respond in kind. 

In fact, there are some individuals who refuse grace and give back only scorn and derision. Even the Lord Jesus experienced this like no other before or after him. Christ endured all the foulness and degradation of a cruel cross because there were people who refused to see that he was extending God’s grace to them. He turned scorn on its head by despising shame and enduring pain so that we would be spared of such ignominy. (Hebrews 12:2-3)

In those times when we, at best, scratch our heads, and, at worst, weep uncontrollably over having our genuine love paid back with harsh misunderstanding, it is a good reminder that we are imitating the life of our precious Lord Jesus who knows exactly what shame is and what a profound lack of mercy can do. 

It is in the seasons and events of life which produce frustration that we understand this: Perfect peace will not be found in this life. So, we more fully attach ourselves to Jesus and find genuine grace and the solidarity of faith and love.

Consider what Christ went through; how he put up with so much hatred from those misinterpreting and misjudging him. Do not let yourselves become discouraged and give up from gross misunderstanding.

Loving God, I give you thanks for sending your Son, the Lord Jesus. Christ is the pioneer of my faith. Just as he endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at your right hand, so help me to live into the grace you offer through Christ’s redemptive events so that I might persevere with grace through all the unmerciful acts of this world. Amen.