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Insecurity

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            In my first pastorate, I had a woman in the congregation with a constant sourpuss outlook on life and was continually critical of me.  After I got to know her, I discovered that she had an alcoholic father who abused her in childhood.  It was not a stretch for me to see that her problem with my authority had to do with the sheer fact that I was her pastor, her leader, and she had major problems with authority figures.
 
            What do you do with insecure people?  It helps to understand the pathology behind such persons, because a church leader cannot always take things personally since the issues are not always of a personal nature.  The person who is raised in such a way that they are insecure almost always misinterprets life.  The reason they do this is that they evaluate almost everything and everybody from the perspective of their past.  Thus, nothing, and I mean literally nothing, can bring security to such a person from the outside.  The cure must come from within through the work of the Holy Spirit impressing the redemptive events of Jesus to the individual, thus creating an assurance of pardon and security that is supernatural.
 
            Insecurity will cause a person to have an exaggerated need for evidence of security.  Yet those needs cannot be met by anyone or anything in that they are not a part of reality and fact, but tend to be irrational.  This makes decision-making for the insecure person difficult if not impossible.  When such needs are not met in life, the insecure person is hurt again (unconsciously reminding them of their past hurts) and they, therefore, lash out against those people that they feel could and even should meet their needs for security and love.
 
            Insecurity causes a person to set up “tests” to prove they are loved and accepted by others.  People intuitively sense these “tests” and their true character, and, understandably, retreat from the insecure person.  This, then, is misinterpreted by the insecure person as rejection, and the problem is deepened.  Insecurity inevitably causes a person to almost obsessively sift through the past and examine the present looking for evidence of security or insecurity.  Events, words, body language, and relationships are evaluated over and over.  The old battles are continually being fought with a constant stream of misinterpretation.
 
            Insecurity, then, only breeds more insecurity and the insecure person either cannot or will not take initiative to settle anything.  Such a person, for sure, cannot reconcile the past without help.  In the place of genuine assistance, some insecure people try to do everything perfectly to compensate for their feelings of inadequacy.  On the other hand, there are those who simply give up and live a passive existence.  They feel so unloved and rejected that they stop trying, so as to not feel the sting of inadequacy and frustration anymore.
 
            Which brings me back to my very insecure parishioner – she was highly critical because everyone failed her “tests” and they were unceremoniously labeled as uncaring.  She really believed that others could change her life and her world if they just cared enough to do so.  So, this troubled woman lived with all kinds of “if only’s.”  If only they would call me every day…. If only they would come and visit more often….  If only they would listen better….  If only they would pay more attention to me….  The problem is that even if others would do such things, the “test” would only become bigger and bigger until it is unbearable for the person trying to help.  The helper then drops-out of the insecure person’s life all together, only reinforcing the feelings of the insecure person.
 

 

            Do you have insecure people in your church?  Are you an insecure person?  The problem of insecurity will not be resolved apart from going back and reconciling the past (see a previous post on this).  Real change comes from the inside-out.  The truth is that all of us as fallen individuals have some degree of insecurity inside of us.  It can only be dealt with by making daily affirmations of truth based in Holy Scripture given by God, so that our security lies solely in being people created in the image of God and forgiven through the cross of Jesus Christ.  Anything less than this does not bring assurance, comfort, and genuine spiritual healing.  By His wounds we are healed.  As we approach the season of Lent and anticipate Holy Week, there is no better time than in these next weeks to take a healthy introspective look upon our lives and find our ultimate value in Christ alone.  “It is finished” was his cry.  Let it be ours as well.

Praying the Psalms

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            Historically, the Old Testament psalms have been the church’s prayer book.  The medieval church so valued constant prayer that many people in the middle ages made substantial donations to monasteries so that monks and nuns, largely freed from manual labor, could become “professional” pray-ers on behalf of the rest of society. Many of them lived a life of prayer, praying day and night.  Most Benedictine monks and nuns chanted all 150 psalms once a week in a cycle of seven daily “hours.” The first thing required of them was learning to read, if they did not already know how to. Next, they had to memorize the Psalms, which might take anywhere from six months to two years.
 
            In the New Testament book of Acts, when the original apostles were put in a position to clarify what their most sacred obligations were, they decided that they must give their attention to prayer and the ministry of the word (Acts 6:4).  The New Testament writers pray and quote the psalms more than any other book of the Old Testament.
 
            The best introduction there is to the psalms is to begin praying them because the psalms teach us how to pray.  The psalms are meant to be prayed and fully engrafted into the life of the believer.  Learning the psalms means praying them, and praying them means praying them over and over again.
 
            If you are not yet convinced why we ought to pray the psalms, let me offer some more reasons:
 
1.  Through praying the psalms we learn the promises of God and how to pray relying on those promises.  It is both appropriate and necessary to take God’s promises, remind God of them, and look for God to fulfill them.
 
2.  We learn how to pray together as a community, and not just as individuals.
 
3.  We discover that the heart cannot pray by itself because we often need to pray contrary to our hearts.  I am a believer and an advocate of pouring out our hearts to God; yet doing that in and of itself does not teach us to pray.  Dietrich Bonhoeffer, the German Lutheran pastor who was part of the resistance to Hitler in the last century said, “The richness of the Word of God ought to determine our prayer, not the poverty of our heart.”  The reason for this is because our hearts can be very deceitful, but if we can tether our hearts to God’s Word, we can pour out both our praise and lament according to biblical truth and not to things never promised to us.
            What is more, if we make it a practice to always follow our hearts, we may find ourselves only praying when we feel like it.  It is a common temptation of Satan to make us give up the reading of the Word and prayer when our enjoyment is gone; as if it were of no use to read the scriptures when we do not enjoy them, and as if it were no use to pray when we have no spirit of prayer. The truth is that, in order to enjoy the Word, we ought to continue to read it, and the way to obtain a spirit of prayer is to continue praying. The less we read the Word of God, the less we desire to read it, and the less we pray, the less we desire to pray.
 
4.  Praying the psalms teaches us to speak to God with confidence and joy, just like a small child boldly asking for what she wants in wonderful anticipation of getting it.
 
5.  Praying the psalms provides direction for our lives; it is the GPS for our souls.
 
6.  When we pray the psalms we join a praise and prayer team that has been going on for thousands of years by believers across the ages in all kinds of cultures.  They serve as a great cloud of witnesses testifying to the power of God to sustain and grow our faith, hope, and love.
 
7.  And maybe most importantly, in praying the psalms we discover the heart of God and adopt his heart as our heart.  When praying according to God’s Word and God’s Way, we get to know who God is and discover the prayers that he delights to answer.
 

 

            In other words, we bring our own situations and experiences to the psalms and permit the psalms to reshape our thoughts and our prayers.  This forms us into God’s people by re-directing our lives with God’s promises and plans.  The psalms are meant to transform us.  Repeated exposure to God’s Word and daily praying his Word through the psalms (even if it is small) will change the way we live our lives and will change the way the world works.  

Learning and Teaching God’s Word

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Christians often refer to the Bible as God’s Word.  By that reference we mean that God has graciously revealed himself to us through this Book, the Holy Scriptures.  The ancient Hebrews referred to the first five books of the Old Testament as the Law of the Lord or the Torah.  The Jewish people understood God as a great, high and holy Being who graciously accommodated or communicated to us on our level by giving the Law.  Just as a parent coos and babbles and speaks in a very different way to a baby in a crib, so God speaks to us in a manner that we can understand his care and concern and love for us.  Just as an infant can in no way understand an adult conversation taking place, so God is a being well above our comprehension and we have no ability to understand anything he says unless he graciously and lovingly bends down to speak to us on our level.
 
            God’s Law, his Torah, was the curriculum for Israel’s religious instruction.  The law of the Lord is meant to be a behavior pattern, to be embodied in the lives of God’s people through both teachers and parents who learn God’s Word and, in turn, pass it along to children and others outside the faith so as to provide our guide for how to live in God’s world.  God’s law is an extension of God’s grace, and we are to gratefully accept the grace of God expressed in God’s Word.  We are to ingest it, eat it, reflect on it, dwell with it in order to know God and be the people God wants us to be.
 
            There are several other Hebrew words that come from this root word of law, Torah, in the Hebrew language.  A teacher is a “moreh.”  A parent is a “horeh.”  Parents and teachers are to be living guides in the way of God’s Word.  The Hebrew word for teaching is “yarah.”  In other words, the moreh’s and the horeh’s are to yarah the Torah.  Parents and teachers are to point and lead others into the ways of the Lord.  The fifth book of the Law, Deuteronomy, makes it clear how parents, mentors, teachers, and influencers are to pass on God’s Word:
 
Hear, O Israel:  The Lord our God, the LORD is one.  Love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength.  These commandments that I give you today are to be upon your hearts.  Impress them on your children.  Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.  Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads.  Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates (Deuteronomy 6:4-9, NIV).
 
 
 
            In other words, God’s Law or God’s Word is to be as familiar to us as our back door and it is to be in front of us all the time.  Let me put this Deuteronomy passage in a modern spin to help us understand a bit better what our privilege is when it comes to God’s Word:
 
Attention, Church!  God, our God! God the one and only!  Love God, your God, with your whole heart: love him with all that is in you; love him with all you’ve got!  Write these commandments that I’ve given you today on your hearts. Get them inside of you and then get them inside your children.  In order to do this, talk about God’s Word at home when you are eating supper together and when you are working or playing with each other.  Start your day with God’s Word when you get up, and end your day with God’s Word when you go to bed at night.  Put God’s Word on your refrigerator and your car’s dashboard; have it on your smartphones and let it be available to you anywhere and anytime.  Use every opportunity you have to incessantly chatter about God’s Holy Word.
 
            Someone may say, “That’s pretty radical – I don’t need to do all that!”  Then I would say you are missing out on living a blessed life because people are blessed when they walk according to God’s Word and keep God’s Law in front of them and seek God through his Word with all their heart. 
 
            Eleanor Turnbull, a veteran missionary to Haiti, collected and translated some simple but powerful prayers of the Christians who live in the Haitian mountains. Here are four prayers that they pray every day.  Take note of their high view of God, and their longing to know God’s Word:  “Our Great Physician, Your word is like alcohol.  When poured on an infected wound, it burns and stings, but only then can it kill germs.  If it doesn’t burn, it doesn’t do any good.”  “Father, we are all hungry baby birds this morning.  Our heart-mouths are gaping wide, waiting for you to fill us.”  “Father, a cold wind seems to have chilled us.  Wrap us in the blanket of your Word and warm us up.”  “Lord, we find your Word like cabbage.  As we pull down the leaves, we get closer to the heart.  And as we get closer to the heart, it is sweeter.”
 

 

            Let’s not be so busy, pre-occupied, or worried that we push God’s Word to the margins of our lives as only a Sunday activity.  Let’s take the time to carefully look at it and let God speak to us through it. Let’s be intentional about connecting with the God who has so graciously given us his guide for grateful living.  Let’s lay solid plans to catechize people into the basics of faith and holy living in the church.  May your efforts both honor God and build up Christ’s church.

The Mind of Christ

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            The classic comic book villain is a tragic story of misplaced power.  Take, for example, the Fantastic Four’s arch-enemy “Dr. Doom.”  Victor von Doom was born to gypsy parents in Europe whom were killed when Victor was very young.  His entire growth was marked by the machinations of evil men.  Victor became a scientific genius, motivated by a desire to change the world and make it a place free from the kind of upbringing he experienced.  But the more Victor grew in intellect and power, the more he discovered he did not have enough control of the world to effect real change.  While working on an invention that he believed could free his mother’s lost soul from the netherworld, the machine literally blew up in his face and “Dr. Doom” was born – an iron masked man signifying his new iron stance toward the world and covering both the actual and emotional scars on his face.  Dr. Doom returned to Europe, took over his native Latveria and sought to, in essence, destroy the world and remake it in his own image.
 
 
 
            A serious God-complex for sure!  Yet without the mind of Jesus Christ even our best attempts to make a difference in this world not only fall short, but actually damage others.  We absolutely and totally need the mind of Christ.  The Spirit of God works through the Word of God.  16th century pastor and theologian, John Calvin, repeatedly instructed and encouraged his Geneva congregation to not separate the Word of God from the Spirit of God because it is the Holy Spirit who illumines truth to us.  It is the Spirit who joins us to Christ and assures us of salvation and grows us in confidence through the Scriptures.  Calvin, who I am convinced was a genius, did not, like Dr. Doom, rely on his intellect or abilities but insisted we need the Spirit’s witness in order to mature as followers of Jesus.
 
            We gain the mind of Christ when our minds are filled with God’s Holy Word.  So, we must be careful about what we put into our minds.  In order to have the mind of Christ, we must receive the Spirit of God through believing that Jesus died on the cross in order to save me from my unmanageable life and circumstances.  We need to be immersed in the Word of God.  When we believe we have the power to change within us, we simply use the Word of God as the frosting on top of the cake or the extra sugar on top of the cookie – it makes things better but I really did all the work of baking.  Instead, we need to be like pickles – absolutely and totally and completely immersed in salt water.  Cucumbers do not become pickles by sprinkling some salt and vinegar on the top – cucumbers become pickles by being soaked in the stuff.  We need the mind of Christ, and to have the mind of Christ we need to be soaked in the Word of God because the Spirit of God uses the Word of God to bring lasting spiritual truth into our lives.  In other words, there is no real change apart from God’s Word.  Wisdom for our lives comes through the Spirit of God using the Word of God.
 
            It is a mystery to us how this actually happens. Pastor H.B. London recalls an experience he had with a young couple with their first child at the hospital.  “I stood by helplessly as one doctor spoke.  “Your baby has died of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome. We want to give you a chance to hold your child before we take her.” I watched this young couple; their shoulders shook with emotion as they held their firstborn for the last time.  My mind raced to find something to say to the shocked young couple. I wanted to tell them that everything would be okay, but that wasn’t true. Their baby was gone. I began, with words that were broken and slow, “I don’t know why this awful loss has to come to you. But I know God loves you as if you were the only ones in the whole world to love. If you accept his love…if you believe he does love you, you’ll make it. If you don’t, you won’t.” Those were the only words I had for them. They seemed awfully empty at the time.  I choked back my own emotions while they tried valiantly to cling to their faith. But something happened in that hospital room. Neither the couple nor I had words to erase the pain. A Holy Presence invaded that place. God joined the three of us. Just as in the Old Testament story of the fiery furnace, when God himself came to comfort Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego, we felt in the fiery trial of suffering an assurance that God was caring for us.  One day, after coming to Focus on the Family, I received a letter with a picture of this young couple holding a beautiful baby. They wrote:  H. B., you probably don’t think we heard you when you encouraged us to cling to the love of God when our baby died. But we heard you clearly. So we have believed over and over that God loves us as if we were the only ones to love. We have learned to live in the love of God. We quote your words to each other often. The Lord is gracious. Notice in the picture we are holding a beautiful new baby—God’s special gift to us. We don’t understand why we lost our first child. We still hurt when we think about it, but we have come to rely on God’s Word and God’s Spirit….”
 
Some tough situations are mysteries beyond our comprehension, are greater than our answers, and bigger than our attempts to change our circumstances. They are mysteries that stretch our faith and force us to turn and cry out to God and Christ’s church for help because we are powerless to manage our lives and our emotions.
 

 

We absolutely and totally need the Holy Spirit of God.  We absolutely and totally need the mind of Christ.  Without them we are lost, but with them we experience the saving power of Jesus and his cross to deal with everything in our lives.  Soli Deo Gloria.